At the HRC Dinner, Jay Made It Official

0:00 Last week you went to the HRC dinner and I know this because my spouse went with you and your spouse and I believe your sister in law person. Right. And we talked about on last week's show that you were going to go. But now. You have gone and the HRC dinner was on National Coming Out Day. How was the dinner like how was the event itself? Let's start there. I will say this year going to try to. you know, not to be too critical here, but I there were some issues this year that hasn't happened in previous years. So and I believe that you caught on to this Alex, they downsized, they went into a smaller venue.

0:44 And I believe that is due to some corporate sponsors pulling support like local Seattle corporate sponsor sponsors pulling support. So they went into a smaller area. which made it a little hectic because when you walk in you have like a silent auction going on so you're supposed to walk around the items well there wasn't really anywhere to stand so everyone was standing in front of silent auction items and yeah chatting so it was a little chaotic but once you got actually into like the dinner part I'm not gonna lie There were like two times where I was trying not to cry because it was very sad so one guest speaker was a survivor of the 2016 Orlando shooting that happened and I believe like 49 people including his partner died So he was talking about that and very inspirational very it was a great it was a great speech I am very moving, but definitely tried not to cry.

2:00 I there was a lot of things about it. Let me pause here. So I it was on national coming out day. I wore makeup and address to this event. And then I posted on social media. I am coming out officially as trans. I am to pretty much like everyone. that I did not deem super important that I should tell before they just find out on social media and I was expecting so I like did it kind of shut off my phone and I was expecting to wake up the next day having to delete and block a lot of people from Florida. So back to the speeches. A lot of it was about trans rights and That kind of stuff so definitely very moving very emotional um Yeah, the food this year was okay Yes, I heard about the food I'm so So you have you have like three options you have I'm also gonna partially put that on the venue yeah, I I would agree with that and so you have a I don't care what you give me option. Then you have a vegetarian option and then you have a gluten free option. I got the I don't care what you give me option, which was some fish on a bed of corn. It was okay. But the person next

3:36 to me got the vegetarian option and somehow had like fettuccine Alfredo and I was like so wanted that. I was like, oh, man, I should get the. And they didn't tell you ahead of time, like which one was they were like, I don't care, vegetarian or gluten free. That's all you got to know ahead of time. Well, it was like a meat option, like, you know, like, do you want do you want meat or do you want gluten free or do you want vegetarian? And I chose the meat one. But they didn't tell you what each option actually meant. That's no. That's weird, right? That's weird. That's definitely weird. No, it's not weird. That's just. Man, come on. Because what if I did better? You know?

4:19 Yeah, I'm just eating corn. I don't know. Yeah. Anyways, it was a great time. It was a great night. Loved it. I am actually one. As I thought it was funny, no one else thought it was funny. There is a local furry bar in Seattle. It is called. I think barely furry or hardly furry. I have heard about it. I have not seen it. I have not gone. Sounds like a great time. They do make their own beer. I do kind of want to check it out. They had like a little gift basket for auction. No one was bidding on it and I want it. And I kind of like, I don't know. I thought it was funny. So I want a beanie and like a scarf from thing barely. Furry. My wife unsurprisingly won wine. A lot of wine. Yes, I'm aware. She is. So she literally is sitting there and she goes, Hey, I want some wine. I was like, Oh, good. Good for you. She goes, No. Can you help me carry it back to your car? And then I said, Well, how much did you win? And her response was literally. I don't know. I was like, oh, no, I was like, oh, here we go. She texted me during the thing to be like, can I bid on that?

5:50 I was like, yeah, I mean, you're supporting it. It cuts. You go to look for those that have not been to like a nonprofit like benefit Gala dinner. Right. They do these auctions, these things all the time. Because what you're doing is the local businesses who are supplying the prizes, they don't. Make the the company pay for the prizes, right? So like the wine companies are like here have 20 bottles of free wine and go auction it whatever right they get a tax write -off when you buy it all the cash that you spend to auction buy it is Is given to the the nonprofit organization in this case the HRC the human rights campaign If you drink wine on game nights, dude, I wish you would drink more of that wine I've got so much No, you people do not go to the HRC in furry costume, or are you asking about the bar? The HRC is a formal event. Slightly furry. That's what it's called. Slightly furry. That is the name. Did you catch the question about pronouns in the chat? I did not. Where is that one? Are you sticking with them or are you going to see her now? Well, have we decided yet? So so much has happened in the past week. So literally that same week I did go talk about HRT in Seattle at a place called Planned Parenthood not a place I would have expected to be a good place to go talk to HRT. However, it is a great place. So

7:22 if you're listening to this and you are thinking about transitioning I highly recommend Planned Parenthood why because as I was sitting there everyone coming and going was trans second They are super friendly, the nicest medical staff I have ever talked to because they're trying to put you at ease. Third, they will assign you a transition specialist that will help you with the entire process of working with surgeons and doctors and everything that you want, even if it's not something that they offer. And they work with the doctor and they work with your insurance company. So it's like a one stop shop. So that is really great. Again, did not expect Planned Parenthood to be Like the place to go, but evidently it is news to me. So there, you know, there, you know, so I did get clear to start HRT whenever I want. And then I did meet with the psychiatrist who stated that, yes, this.

8:23 Everything kind of checks out and they I have to have like a second appointment with them and then they will be writing a letter to my insurance company. I'm stating that I have gender dysphoria. Why does that matter? Because I want insurance to cover everything and I don't want to pay out of pocket. So back to pronouns, why does this all tie to pronouns? I feel like the crazy guy from always sunny with the different strings and I'm just like, why does this matter? Me personally, I'm sticking with they them. This is a little weird. thing for me I Kind of feel like I have not this is me just me not speaking for the trans community at all I've been told I have a weird way of thinking about this whatever I am I feel like I have not earned she her pronouns yet, that is just me I am to each your own so I will switch to she her pronouns at some point, I think probably after I go through puberty of HRT. And we are testing out like a name change. So I don't know, I'll probably stay J on the channel. But who knows? That's that's everything. What else do you want to know? HRT also I have a eight pound Triangle block of Beecher's cheese in my

9:57 fridge right now from the HRC event. There you go. It's a giant triangle of cheese. Beecher's cheese is fucking awesome. Yeah. Amazing. But that's a lot of cheese. Eight pounds of cheese. As the. The First I I'm gonna echo the chat and say good for you Jay. I'm happy for you I want you to to do what is gonna make you The most complete of a person Does that make sense? Yeah, that makes sense be a complete person Okay, and that's the important thing, right? That's what we want for everyone Public Okay I want you to be a complete person. I'm happy for you. We're here to support you. Obviously, my spouse supports you, et cetera, et cetera. You know, we do that.

11:04 We do the deeper talks, folks with people when Jay and I are not in front of cameras. So fuck you. Jay knows how I feel anyway, but I do want to say yes. Okay. In case you guys didn't figure this out, this channel is a place where we talk about this kind of stuff as much as Jay is comfortable, right? Where we will talk about these things and we will have these subjects, okay? And if you're not comfortable with that, here's what I'm gonna do, actually. If you're not comfortable with it, I wanna challenge you. I want to challenge you to stick the fuck around. Right? Don't be an asshole in chat because even if you don't agree with it and even if it makes you uncomfortable, that doesn't mean you need to open your mouth.

11:59 We talked about this earlier in the show. You can keep some thoughts to yourself. Hold it in. But I do want to challenge you to stick the fuck around. I want you to stick around so that maybe you learn some stuff. And maybe just maybe I'm not saying we're trying to force an agenda. What I'm saying is, is. Allow for the fact that maybe the reason you're fucking uncomfortable is because you've been around it a whole lot and you just don't know a lot about it. And here's the thing, at the end of the day. Jay is still the person who. Who I go do movie reviews with, right? We go to dinner. They are my wife's co -worker.

12:47 They are someone who is in our lives, right? At the end of the day, regardless of what Jay's pronouns were or whether Jay had a beard or does not have a beard or was using he, him, or they, it doesn't fucking matter. The fact of the matter is, Jay is still the same person. Okay? Again, if you're uncomfortable, I challenge you to stick around and see if that helps. Okay, I can't don't be a dickhead in my chat or my comment section, but Stick around to see if it helps Okay No, that was actually entirely coincidence the color my wife periodically will change the colors She'll log into the app and be like now it's fucking red because Alice's man Okay No, it's entirely good That's a blue lightsaber that won't change colors. Hang on right there. Okay, so that is a blue lightsaber these lights up here These LEDs they will change colors. I have one set of studio light that comes this way I used to have two but what I'm burned out or no, sorry the cord cable ripped Lighting is a pain in the ass in case you didn't know It is oh my god That somebody somebody to chat in YouTube chat is calling me Spicy Mr. Rogers. I like it. I like it. Oh, yeah. There it goes. There it goes. I

14:18 don't know. Maybe that'll be our new segment. Spicy Mr. Rogers. Spicy Mr. We're going to have to come up. We're going to have to come up with. Actually, that's not a terrible idea. We you know what we need to do. That will be it. This will be an improvement for the show. We're going to get we're going to get some standardized segments. I see a lot of shows do this. We don't. We haven't. You know, we didn't get some. Maybe maybe we do need like. I can. Spicy Mr. Rogers is inspiring me. Maybe it's maybe it's fucking some some Sesame Street shit we need to do on this show. Right. To help people out, fucking meet your neighbor's time. Yep. I love it. Oh, that is good. Oh, I love that. Yeah, I'm writing this down. Write that down. I am writing it down right now. Oh, God. Spicy Mr. Rogers, Sesame Street segment.

15:18 Oh, that one's really good. Yeah. Purple's purple is appropriate. OK. And again, just to put everybody's fucking minds at ease, if you thought that everybody on this show or anybody on this show the whole time was completely heterosexual, you were 100 % wrong. Suck it, nerds. Okay, if you thought that was the case, because it ain't true. Ain't nobody here fucking straight. Okay. And again, if you're uncomfortable with that, I encourage you to stick around. OK. Because you might learn some shit. We're also not going to pressure Jay to share any more or less of their process than they feel like sharing. Hey, we still will talk about politics and video games and movies. Yeah, because that's interesting. That is really interesting.

16:23 OK. Bojay and I are waiting for shrinking season three. Maybe that'll be a segment. You all need to watch shrinking. Oh, my God. It's one by the way. Real quick, talking about therapy. Everyone says, like, become a lawyer, become a doctor, become an engineer. Yeah. I talked to my therapist about, like, one, how do you become a licensed therapist? I can't. Hey, how much do they make like industry standard? How much do you typically pay fresh out of college? You have a license.

17:06 How much do you get paid? Not much. Oh, it is a lot. Is it? It's a lot for that kind of therapist or for a straight counselor, for any sort of licensed therapist. OK. And they are making a hundred and thirty dollars per hour. And typically, she said her colleagues, all of her friends do somewhere around thirty two therapy hours per week. Do the math on that. Spoiler alert. It's like two hundred and twenty five thousand dollars a year. Yeah, but that's before they account for their overhead costs and stuff like that.

17:53 Office do to do to do. So, no, that's if you work for an office like the office is paying you to be. Oh, yeah, that's what they pay. They're charging more. The office is charging more than that to cover their overhead costs like rent a check. Dog Dad said a career change on top of everything, Jay. Well, I that I mean. That is way. Can I can I hit that? Can I let me get this out is you were worried you were going to have to make a career change today. I take it that did not come to pass. Dang. You actually like I talk to people, don't you? My wife says words. Occasionally I hear her. Yeah, so my.

18:41 company who just had layoffs who this week is currently really trying to hammer out budget stuff. My boss's boss said, Hey, Jay, I want to talk to you about your position. Ooh, mysterious. And then someone else asked. Hey Jay because this was like tomorrow. I want to talk to you about your position then another person Who would be the person that would probably be packing up my stuff as I'm being? Laid off or fired was like hey, I just want to make sure you're gonna be in the office tomorrow, and I was like Yeah, I'm gonna be there yeah, I'll be there cool awesome, but turned out Huge misunderstanding. I'm. Very yeah. It was a huge misunderstanding. I am. And then they asked me, you know. If I would like to have my. Job as a redefined it and I said.

19:55 I feel like I'm not going to have a job if I say no, so yes, I would still like to keep my job as you redefine my job. Thank you. Yeah, that was today. Having a job is good, though. Having a job is really good, especially in this market right now. Yep. So all right, folks, 9 45. We've been going here.